What I Learned From My First Year In The 30's | Real Reason Why We Took A Break From Youtube
First let me say thank you to everyone who wished me a Happy Birthday, I turned 31, and for really making this year feel special. It's always awesome to see that people will still take the time to say Happy Birthday, even if it's on Facebook, because it still requires some amount of energy to type out HBD lol.
So thank you!
And if you took the time to type out "H-a-p-p-y B-i-r-t-h-d-a-y-!" extra thank you!
I especially want to say thank you to my wonderful wife for making it her number one priority to make feel special on my birthday which wasn't easy because this year it fell on a Monday and Mondays just happen to be our busiest day of the week. (I'm sure you can all relate) But she did everything in her power to show me that I was loved and I'm just happy knowing that I'll be able to share all of my birthdays from here on out with her.
Ok, so what I learned from my first year in the 30's!
Unlike a lot of people, I really enjoyed turning 30.
I got married, I finally don't look like a 16 year old asian kid anymore, and I'm happy (not satisfied) with where I'm at in life.
But I learned a lot in this one year, maybe more than any other year in my life.
I definitely know I learned more this year than in the 4 years combined that I went to college! (sorry mom and dad)
But the most important thing I learned was GWC!
GWC is an acronym that stands for Get it, Want it, Capacity to Do it.
It's a simple phrase that has helped me to look at everything that I'm trying to balance in my life right now and gauge whether or not I can realistically add more things to my list.
And at the end of the day, my list usually comes down to 3 things.
2. Entrepreneur/Business Owner
And anything else that I add to the list will go through the GWC Protocol.
Take for example The Albert and Mesha Youtube Channel.
Do I get it?
Here I had to ask myself a lot of questions like...
- What is the channel about?
- Is this for fun?
- Do I understand how to make great content, how to post it, how to distribute it, how to make it popular and grow?
- Do I understand the Youtube Algorithm on how videos are featured and how to gain subscribers?
- What is the purpose of our video production?
- Do I understand how to shoot, edit, and produce high quality content?
- Do we understand Youtube?
After a lot of research, trial and error, and making videos I can honestly say Yeah, I get it!
When I was 21-25 years old...
A lot of the times, I didn't get it.
I would have something that I wanted, like a job, but didn't really understand what the responsibilities, description, and time requirements necessary to have it.
It was a failure to fully comprehend and would often lead to quitting or just not liking what I was doing which is never good for anyone.
This is usually the easiest question to answer especially when you're in your early 20's, then a little more back and forth in your mid 20's, and then a bit easier as you get older. (at least based on my experiences)
But when it came to the Youtube Channel, I can honestly say that yes, we both wanted it!
Capacity To Achieve It?
Now here is the part of GWC that has really weighed heavily on my life this last year.
Do you have the capacity to achieve it?
And if you were to ask me in my early 20's, the answer 100% of the time would have been yes to everything!
Well first off, I probably did have less responsibilities and more time but also because we were all programmed to be ambitious and go after everything that our little hearts desired. I was always told to do more, want to do more, and go out and take action.
And... I did!
But action without "getting it" and figuring out if you really "want it" can lead to a lot of dead ends, discouragement, and a tougher road to a finish line.
So before we went any further with the Youtube Channel...
I had to ask myself Do We Have The Capacity To Achieve It?
To really make great video content, produced and distributed regularly, that could build a subscriber base and online community.
And as much as my little heart wanted to say yes because of how much I love to be creative...
The 30 year old me, knew the answer, which was No.
Why tell yourself that you can't do something?
It's not that I was being negative or telling myself and my wife that we can't do something, it was a simple decision related to prioritizing.
I get a 100% effort that I can give everyday.
And this means I try to allocate that 100% total 3 different ways...
To being a Coach, A Business Owner, and a Husband.
And I know I'm not the best coach that I can be (which kills me) because I have to be a business owner and a Husband. Same thing goes for being the best business owner and the best husband.
But, I do my best to balance those three things everyday.
When we added the Youtube Channel, it took a significant amount of my time and effort away from those 3 things. Sure, the video quality and content got better but it did at the cost of some effort being taken away from all the other stuff and I wasn't okay with that.
I committed to those 3 things and as soon as I saw a decrease in one of them, I hit the breaks.
Don't get me wrong, if I can find a way to make it work or if one of those 3 things becomes more efficient and allows me to allocate more effort somewhere else - I'll do it but at the time it was a surprisingly easy decision to make.
The first year in my 30's taught me about commitment, sacrifice, and most important "doing what you say you were going to do and not letting anything persuade you from that".
I committed to all of my clients that I would coach and be the best coach that I can be.
Together with my wife, we decided to make a sacrifice in our own personal lives to build a business and community that we would dedicate ourselves to.
And lastly, I told my wife when we got married that I would never stop trying to be a great husband to her.